Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Becoming a Beautiful Person (Part 3)

Now we come to the best part, the final stage, the final step, the part of true inner peace that very few people are able to experience, and eludes many of us. This is the stage I phrased earlier as ‘Reincarnated Inner Beauty’. Picture this: you confront the person that hurt you, you explain to them what they did and how it hurt you so that it may not happen again. Now one of two things will happen, either the person will apologize and try to make peace with you and save the relationship you both have, or they won’t care and leave you standing with a blank stare. Either response it doesn’t matter, remember you’re doing this for you not them. This is so the burden of hatred that you are carrying around gets lifted; this is the bridge that helps you to make the transition from ‘Wall of Pain’ to Reincarnated Inner Beauty’, from hatred to love. Once you’ve crossed that bridge with the help of forgiveness, forget the hurt and the growing can now begin. It starts with this one person, you have to change your entire perception of them, not seeing them as the person who hurt you and has filled your heart with anger, but as a person who you can see pass their faults and still appreciate them as a person. I always use this example to help: think about how things were with the person before they hurt you and how you perceived them then, now ask yourself, “If things hadn’t gotten to this point would you still feel the same about them now, would you still react the same towards them?” There is a strong possibility you wouldn’t. By doing that it helps you to look pass the negatives of the person and the situation, and focus on the positives and by doing that it helps you to look pass what they did, and see the good within them that exists. Now you’ve made peace with yourself and with the person what’s next?

Now you must learn to accept what cannot be changed, and that is that at some point in your life you will be hurt again. If it sounds a lot easier said than done chances are it is, but the point is it can be done. There isn’t any step by step process I can explain that you can follow to accomplish this, this has to be all Y-O-U. The reason for this is that it is a mindset that you must adopt and adapt to. Releasing all your inhibitions and the fear that hurt may come your way again. Be open to the fact that the next person that comes your way may hurt you, at the same time the next person that comes your way may love you more than you’ve ever been loved. The wonderful thing about this situation is that you are that much wiser so you can more readily identify a hurt situation from a love situation. In some cases you may not until it’s too late and fall into the same scenario yet again, don’t worry about it, that’s okay too. This is because in life the more mistakes you make the better you’ll become at what you do. You’ll learn even more how to readily differentiate between a love and hurt situation, and even if you are hurt yet again, you will now be more equipped to handle the situation and the hurt, so that it will not affect your daily life and the beautiful people in it. It’s best to love the next person just as much as the previous one, or even more; that way your inner beauty can never and will never be tainted by hatred. Yet again, easier said than done, but it can be done. Learn how to open up to the possibility of hurt; the more you do the more your mind opens up to the possibility of love…don’t get it? I’ll explain. By closing your mind to the possibility of hurt, you close others out of your life, since in order to be hurt in the first place you have to allow someone to get close enough to you to do it. You will live in constant fear of the repercussions that come with that hurt. However, by accepting that hurt is inevitable, there is no longer fear, and the absence of fear means the courage to do more and make bolder steps. You open your mind to love because now you open up your life for the beautiful people to enter it and the more you open up your life, the more beautiful people can enter. Just think of it as opening your arms, if its close no one can enter, but the further apart it is stretched, the more people you can hug and share your love with and vice versa.

Wow...what a long topic this is...the conclusion and final part to the series comes to you next week

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